John, I think two things have helped my rig.
#1 Your advise on the sub. The tweeks have helped. I've played with some of those car audio bass cd's (you know, the woofer torture discs). This sub could be used for a room fan. The air coming from the lower port is amazing (scary actually). WITH NO KLOPPING. :D
#2 My maturity level. I've turned down the overall receiver/surround volume, and turned the sub amp up, quite a bit actually. I suppose I was so interested in the HT "escape" that I thought the entire experience had to be loud. Like a good song you crank up. (However, a 2 hour long cranked up movie leads to fatigue.) But was still looking for the 'punch' from the sub. Well, at that volume, the sub was already at 90%. Not much headroom left. So, turned the receiver down, sub amp up. Gives it the nice little suprise when the movie requires it. Didn't really change placement so to speak, but twisting it on it's axis so the waves have to take a different path has helped somewhat.
I guess I'm an official member now of the housewrecker club. One of my favorite cocktail 'hurricane' glasses I got from Bubba Gump's Shrimp Company in Chicago broke. ::) I truly had mixed emotions about that one. Pissed that I broke it, but had an uncontrolable grin as I walked past my wife to get the vacuum cleaner...... Thinking to myself as I cleaned the broken glass, "Yea, I got me a badassed sub, I can break shit now."
I'm beginning to realize some of my unhappiness with the system is due to me. I've always had a problem with wanting to make something that works perfectly fine, better. We all know my setup would not be considered audiophile grade. I hear you guys talk about your systems knowing mines nowhere close. Man, I can't imagine how some of your systems sound (charlieboy's, Mr. C's ect..ect..). Granted they're listening rooms, not HT, but there is no law that says you can't have both. I guess knowing that there is something out there that's sooo much better acoustically than what I'm hearing from mine is what my biggest problem is. I'll never be happy. :(
I'm not at all embarrassed about my system, I'd show it proud to any of you guys. Knowing all the while your probably thinking, "this sounds like hell. I can't wait to get back to MY room". But proud none the less.
I could stop on the room right now, never tweek another thing and be pretty happy with it. I'd continue to have friends/relatives over and show it off. BUT, I know myself, and will continue to tweek/complain/modify/spend money/bitch untill I'm blue in the face.
So John, as far as your comment about being ready to upgrade,.... I'm always ready (just not ready to move walls yet ;)) ... you just keep those radical ideas coming. I'll build 'em...
Can't wait for you and bassboy to design that W.M.D. your planning.

I'd build it, as long as the drivers is'nt super high dollar.
Bob
EDIT- just proofread after posting, apparently the website censored me when I wrote "c0cktail", it replaced it with thingytail!? ... WTF? a totally innocent word censored by a website. >:( (had to use a zero instead of an 'o' to get it to work that time.) Apparently "it" doesn't have a problem with me using other 4 letter words though. ::)