What an inspiring and uplifting story. Not to compare feebly, but my wife is not able to just sit and enjoy music the way most of us do. She is quite a talented artist still, but uses paints and designs intriguing ways to show the art she creates. She is truly a natural treasure, but can't just relax and "listen" for more than a few minutes and usually only does so in support or as a concession to my enthusiasm over something.
She is a painter. But she always comes up with ideas that mean I "have work to do" for her with my own tools. And I always try my best.
She does not try to sell my gear, as HockessinKid revealed (in jest I know) when I inevitably fall asleep at my work. She is very happy for
both of us that I now have my own music room, again.
But she loves to hear music, as a background, unintrusive thing she can easily ignore if she wants, not as THE elemental, emmersive and enjoyable ride where our minds can take us. That is why I have four other, smallish, questionable stereos distributed around the house. Now she had no understanding of my old backyard system, which was basically a leftover club band system (4-way thing with a couple thousand watts), set to whisper instead of rock out. But tolerance is one of the ways she deals with
my needs.
I think you are a very lucky man to have found HappyGirl and garnerd her attention. I am too a very lucky man, just different.